We often ask ourselves how to grow, how to improve, how to become better than we were yesterday. The internet is full of lists: wake up earlier, drink more water, learn a new skill. These are all valid. But recently, I’ve been reflecting on a different kind of improvement — one that starts not with me, but with you.
So, I’ve decided:
The one small improvement I can make in my life is to go to the people nearest to me and ask,
“What’s one small improvement I can make in your life?”
This question changes everything.
It shifts the focus from self-perfection to shared presence.
From inward loops of self-improvement to outward ripples of care.
From being better for myself to being better with others.
And here’s the key:
I don’t just ask this question. I listen carefully to the answer.
Maybe someone will say, “Please be more present when we talk.”
Maybe someone else will whisper, “Just check in with me once in a while.”
Or perhaps they’ll say nothing — and I’ll learn to listen to silence too.
Why This Feels So Healthy
Because true health isn’t just physical — it’s relational.
It’s being aware of the space we occupy in other people’s lives.
It’s about asking, “How can I make this moment lighter, kinder, or more thoughtful for you?”
In a world obsessed with personal upgrades, I believe the gentlest, most radical thing we can do is to care more intelligently.
And so, I begin.
With a question.
And a willingness to change, not just for me — but for us.
Have you asked someone this question recently? Try it. And if you’ve received a beautiful answer, I’d love to hear it. 💬
