Title: Are You a Leader or a Follower? Why That Question Might Be Missing the Point

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Are you a leader or a follower?
The question sounds simple. But what if the question itself is flawed?

The other day, a colleague told me something strange yet interesting. He said:

“There are only two ways to live—either dominate others or become a victim.”

According to him, life is a battlefield. You’re either the one in charge, or the one getting crushed. You must either lead everyone or be led forever.

I found it funny at first. Then I asked him, \”Why do you need to dominate or be a victim? Can’t there be something in between?\”

Life is rarely black and white. You’re not always the leader. You’re not always the follower. Most of the time, you shift roles.

• When you’re learning something new—you follow.
• When you’re confident and experienced—you lead.

This middle state is often the most peaceful and powerful space to live in. You don’t burn out from always being in control. And you don’t lose your identity by always taking orders.

Leadership is a skill, not a status.Following with awareness is strength, not weakness.
Flexibility is more useful than fixed identity.

We need to let go of the pressure to always “be the leader.” Here’s what I believe:

So next time someone asks, “Are you a leader or a follower?” — maybe just smile and say:

“Depends on the day. I know how to do both.”